Do you suffer with Negativity in your world? Don’t! You only harm yourself!
Do you suffer with Negativity in your world? Don’t! You only harm yourself!
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Is your life on repeat? Sometimes we feel destined to repeat the same day, same week, same month, even the same year over and over again. It’s like you are in a car that is going around and around in the same circle over and over and over again. So how do you take that wheel, straighten it out and get out of that circle? I can seem impossible to do.
I know it may seem hard to believe, but we are not programmed to relive the same things over. I know how easy it is to get into a routine and get comfortable (and I am not talking about just jobs). While jobs can put us into a rut, so can people.
So how do you break the cycle? It’s the question we all want to know. I was there, and I didn’t know what it was like to actually live my life. It took someone else shaking up my life for me to break free. I don’t want you to fall victim to that too. We don’t all have something or someone to pull us out of the mundane, but you can make changes in your life. It may mean getting out of your comfort zone (which can be scary). It may mean distancing people in your life (people whom you may love dearly, but if they are toxic to your life and health, then they are unhealthy).
How do you know what to do? Who is bad? What is boring? You would think it would be clear as day and night, but it isn’t. You don’t see the obvious when you are inside the obvious box. Think of it like this. There is a huge box, on the outside it’s plain and brown and boring, and has “REPEAT” written in actual letters everywhere. However, you are inside the box and you’ve decorated it with your favorite pillows and people and you never see the outside of the box. You are comfortable inside and never realize that you are not truly enjoying what is outside the box waiting for you. Because if break down the box walls you’ll see traveling, meeting new people, and so much more. You don’t see the obvious because you are INSIDE the obvious box.
Maybe you are saying you don’t have the time or money to change your routine. Here’s the funny thing….if it’s important enough to you, you’ll find the time or money. I am not saying you have to change everything all at once. Not many of us are in a situation that allows us to quit/change jobs at the drop of a pin or move homes (or even states). But you can start small. Go to karaoke, zumba, a festival. Once you’ve made a small step it makes the larger steps look smaller.
If you feel like everything is on repeat, then is probably is. Take a moment and evaluate your life and start with a small change. I just want to encourage you to LIVE your life. Don’t let your life control you.
Live Loud my Luvs and cherish your day!
Today is not a given. We hear this all the time. Every day good people are taken from this earth. Be it through long life, illness, car accident, murder, whatever. So that means we shouldn’t take today for granted. But when was the time to stopped and looked at your day? Stop right now. Take a moment and think… About what? That’s they joy of your life, you can stop and think about anything that is making this moment worth living. For me it’s Monkey, my mom, my amazing friends, my increasingly healthy body. My list is miles long and I know that. I believe in cherishing every moment given to me.
You will have moments, maybe even seasons of what seems like you can’t overcome. But you will, you must. I complain (though I shouldn’t), I curl up in a ball in my bed and cry (though not even a fraction as much as I used to), I lose my temper (please forgive me), I am human. BUT…. I always bounce back, I always ask forgiveness and I always say my prayers.
I have several friends that are shouldering heavy burdens right now, Their journey is not over, but I will do all I can to help ease it. I pray at the end of the day they are able to sit down and find their reasons to keep going.
If you ever can’t find your reason to go on, tell me! I’ll help you find it.
Live Loud my Luvs and cherish your day!
For anyone who is a cat owner, you already know that cats own you. You don’t own the cats. They decide whether you sleep, eat, leave/stay, work-out, anything. Today my precious Screwy kitty (aptly nicknamed “King Tut”) decided I wasn’t allowed to leave.
I always lay my clothes out nice and neat on my bed before I get dressed. I get mostly dressed except for my blouse. My blouse, shirt, sweater I put on right before I am ready to do my lashes and hair. Today when I went to grab my sweater it was already taken over. Hmpfh! What to do?
* Shake the treat can – no Screwy (Fuzzy Mama came running, but Screwy just stared at me)
* Turn on the bathroom facet (the only water he’ll drink, I swear!) – NO SCREWY!
* Throw baby (a cat nipped mouse) in front of him out the bedroom door – NO SCREWY!!!
He just lays there with the death stare. Now mind you, the night before I packed my overnight bag to go to Mom’s. He KNOWS what that bag means. So he decided with all his regal royal-ness that he was going hold my sweater hostage. Now for the most part Screwy is a really good cat, just stubborn, really stubborn.
I finally had to walk away go to the kitchen and get my water ready, finished packing my bags up, any activity that I could do that wasn’t in the bedroom. And you know what? It worked. Screwy cannot stand to be anywhere I am not. He has to be by me at ALL times. So his loyalty (or curiosity) got the better of him and he left the bedroom, and I got my sweater. (Good think, because I was getting cold!)
Live Loud my Luvs! (and obey the great King Tut Cat!!!!!)
The days when you want to scream and give up are the days you simply must stand up and dance. I know that sounds absurd, but it’s that silly, fun, crazy thing that will make you realize life IS worth all the hard work and tears.
My son is currently away at a camp for the week, through a school field trip. He is in his element, the woods and nature, but he is miserable! He has called me crying and wants to give up. He wants me to come and get him. But I am not. And l let me tell you this tough love bit is just as hard on me, as it is on him. But I want him to see that he is stronger than what he realizes. I want him to turn around that separation anxiety and have some fun.
I told him when he called this morning to find a corner where no one was watching and just dance, be silly and goofy. I got silence at first, and then the long and drawn out “Mooooommmmmm.” I doubt he’ll do it, but I did get him to laugh for a moment, and that was a golden moment.
Some people never truly understand the important of dancing. My favorite quote of all time is:
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain!”
by Vivian Greene
These are words I try my hardest to live by! You should too!
Live Loud my Luvs! (and dance!!!!!)
So let’s talk about my lunch! Or lack thereof. I brought lunch (not the healthiest of lunches, but it was something to tide me over until I have a healthy dinner). I packed Velveeta Shells and Cheese (a quick and easy lunch), 2 hard boiled eggs, string cheese, fig newtons and applesauce. Well I am a bit brain dead today …. ok a LOT brain dead today. No sleep has caught up with me. And you see…. I forgot to put the water in my cup and burnt my macaroni. OK, no judging allowed! We all do stupid stuff when we are sleep deprived. I’ll catch enough flak from my family over this – UGH. LOL.
All in all, at least I can laugh at it. I am a good cook and make some pretty tasty things (Monkey is partial to my Pistachio Encrusted Salmon, with couscous – Thanks Erin for this amazing recipe). But when I am tired, all bets are off.
Maybe since I am so tired today, we’ll just order in pizza, it’ll be a LOT safer. LOL
Live Loud my Luvs! (and don’t forget your water!)
What have I gotten into?
That’s a really good question. Life in general takes you on different paths, but overall you control what path you go down.
For many years I let someone else determine my path, never seeing clearly enough to write my own future. In the past seven years that has changed, particularly in the past two years. Life is short and I don’t want to live paycheck to paycheck and miss out on all the fun that can be had. So it was time for a change.
My changes are not mind blowing, the biggest and best change happened about 7 years, and I didn’t have control of it. My ex left me. Someone who spent his every waking moment controlling, manipulating and abusing me, finally was out of my life. This was a God send (though at that given moment I did not know it). It was now my turn to write the chapters of my book. So I did!
The next big event in my life was joining Younique (now I am not going to do a lot of direct sales talk, but I want you to see how it affected me). Younique ended up being more than make-up (yes, I am sure you have heard that phrase a lot, I use it a lot). It truly changed my life. My confidence came back to me, I was surrounded by amazing, gorgeous women who continually praised me. It was mind-blowing and it changed my life. Since then, I have joined two more direct sales (Gourmet Cupboard and Plexus). While these two are both newer, they have promises of being a great adventure.
You see, sometimes you just have to get out and take life by the hand and skip down the path you feel is right. You can’t listen to the nay-sayers and doubters. It’s your life, not theirs, and sometimes life without a small gamble can end up being quite the bore. You don’t have to get into direct sales, or any business venture, just get out and live and enjoy life. You only get this life one time.
Instead of finding excuses not to, find reasons to do!
Have you ever just felt like you should just crawl back into bed and start the day over in 24 hours? Of course? We all have.
So what makes us all different, that some people just shut down on those days and others push through?
I have been on both sides of the coin. There was a point in my life when I just stopped functioning and completely shut day when my day was going bad (especially since it seemed the day just kept to be getting worse and worse). I focused on every little horrible thing that had been happening.
I had no hope, no light and no faith. Did you read that? I had no hope, no light and no faith. Once I got to a point in my life when I found positive momentum, I kept it. I thrived on it! Does that mean I don’t have bad days? Heck no! I still have horrible days when I want to cry and crawl back in bed, but I don’t let that consume me. I no longer shroud myself in self-doubt or throw a pity party. Now I push through!
When I wake up and the day starts off bad and goes to worse, I stop! Yes! Stop! Not stop living, not shut down, but I stop and focus on positive things. I look at things such as my amazing son, or the fact that I have a roof over me head. I am blessed with a job. There are so many little blessings in our lives that if you just stop and focus on those you’re day will turn around. And I mean I physically stop and almost meditate on those “lights” in my life.
It always amazes me when I see people having a bad day and they spend more and more time focusing on all the negativeness and they don’t understand why their day is getting worse. Bottom line is wherever you focus your energy is how your circumstances will turn out. Bad things will happen, it’s part of balance. You have to have good and bad in your life. But you don’t have to let the dread, doom and gloom take over your life. It’s a conscience thought.
So what will your thoughts be?